Be Quite, Not Right.

When people say stuff I disagree with, my natural instinct is to voice objections and lists arguments for a different perspective. Too often, that is not what they want to hear. They are simply letting off steam or recounting a story because it feels good to share and be heard. I must remember that and keep my mouth shut. However, I must also not give the impression I agree. How do I do this? Growing up, it was natural to put up an argument about anything I disagreed with. My parents loved me for it. At least they didn't complain. In fact, it was fun to debate an issue with my folks. I think they thought I was clever and independent for it. I understand that my friends and peers don't see it this way. Now, how do I get out of the habit of disagreeing. Maybe I just need to say nothing, or find something to agree with, or move the conversation to another topic. I don't know, but I must do something. It makes interactions contentious and I see their heart rate go up as they get defensive. Really I'm not trying to change your mind, I'm simply disagreeing with you and telling you why. What, you didn't come to me for that. Oh well. Must think before I speak.

Rolls Aren't Exaclty Curves

In this environment where fat is becoming the norm, you often hear expressions that sooth the egos of the plus sized. One such term is 'real women have curves.' Yes, I agree with that, but a woman with 200 pounds (unless she is unusually tall) has got more than curves going on. Let's get real. What's wrong with stating the truth? And while we are on the topic of lame excuses given by fat people, how about the idea that you can be addicted to food. Even if that is accurate, addiction can be overcome with work. It is tough to move past ever present food. It's not impossible, though. Let's stop using excuses and be honest. At least, make an effort. I'll value your effort because it will surely get you healthier, even if not exactly to your goal weight. Make your body a priority because it's the place you live your whole life and you want it to be comfortable, don't you?

oh, btw. I'm fat. I'm not a self-hater. I just don't pretend my lard is anything more than over consumption.

"Basic Black" by Cathie Black, Review

On a visit to my local library I ran across ‘Basic Black’ by Cathie Black. Somewhere I think I had heard good things about this book. I thought it would be a manual on how to get ahead at work. I thought it would give advice and information about tactics to do well in a career. It did do that, a bit. However, this was more an autobiography than a business manual. That’s fine by me, because I enjoy learning how individuals get to where they get. It was a nice ride Ms. Black took me on as she described how she went from a glorified secretary to CEO. Along the way, she does offer tips. She is careful to note that what will work for any individual might be different than what worked for her. The only quibble I have with the book is when she says things like ‘read on’ or ‘that story later’. I hated the tease. There must be a better way to transition to the next lesson than this. Finally, I must applaud the voice actress that read the book. She has an excellent voice and used it well to convey the depth of the story and I enjoyed the story and experienced it better for it. All in all, I am happy I stumbled onto this audio book.